Online dating can be a total minefield! I don’t think I’d even know where to start as dating is evolving so rapidly and I think the rules are so different now from when I was last dating. How an earth do you get your profile noticed when there are others out there looking too?
I’ve chatted to a few friends that are enjoying their time online dating and whether they are now heading older women dating younger men on sites such as My Cougar Dates, people looking for same-sex relationships or just a cheeky hookup, a lot of the dating profile rules are the same.
You don’t want to undersell yourself, but you also don’t want to sound too full of yourself; it’s so hard to find a happy medium. A great tip I read was ‘If you’re funny, be funny, and trust that the people who don’t find you amusing wouldn’t have laughed in real life either‘ which would really appeal to me as I’m always game for a good laugh. You don’t want to be too serious as you could come across a little stuffy, you want people to see you as approachable.
As much as you’re going to want to impress possible suitors, you don’t say anything you can’t back up later on. For example, don’t lie your height or age, for example, as it will only cause issues and possibly some awkwardness if you meet in person.
Picking good photos is a must as so many daters are time poor so they may just take a quick look at your first photo. If you don’t tickle their fancy with that then you might miss out on a date!
Ideally, you should stay away from photos with friends so it’s easy to spot who you are. It’s also advisable to pick a photo that is really natural, so one where you’re not looking directly at the camera. Evidence suggests that people are more attracted to photos that show others laughing or being themselves so try to go along with that.
I’d also avoid photos with animals, flexing muscles and being too showy. You want to impress not belittle or turn off!
You are going to want to add in a few facts about yourself that could be conversation starters too as this can help to break the ice. Listing your hobbies is a great place to start as it can bring in people with similar interests too and that can give a great springboard for conversation.
You could even ask a question that people can answer should they chose to message you.